You know, sometimes education just gets in the way of figurin’ things out and in working out problems.
In many circles, “working things out” gets called something else – like mediation, negotiation, arbitration or conflict resolution. These terms are often used in law, social work, education, real estate, human resources, counseling, religion or other fields.
I’ve taken courses in negotiation, mediation and conflict resolution. I’m even “certified” in International Commercial Arbitration.
But there are some elementary students who make the process a whole lot easier. They use a method called “a bug and a wish.” It’s a simple procedure but it takes a bit of explaining.
Do you remember being in elementary school and telling the teacher that somebody hit you, or that someone pulled your pigtails, or that a classmate laughed at you, or that someone looked at your paper?
Now, there’s a new way to handle these squabbles, as well as others. It’s a practice being used in places by the youngest of students.
Or how about this scenario: “It bugs me when we play ‘Red Rover’ at recess because I never get picked until last. I wish that someone would pick me before the end so that I will be happy and feel better about playing.”
The reports are that bugs and wishes are working wonders in the classrooms.
No, I doubt bugs and wishes will end wars but they certainly might help in daily personal relationship battles and in workplace conflicts.
It’s certainly worth a try, don’t you think?
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