4/23/09

You Have to Ask the Right Question!

Sometimes, you just need to ask the right question.

Several years ago, I was presiding over a hearing in a courtroom, when I apparently asked the witness the wrong question.
After getting his name, age and address, I queried: “Marital status?”
He just gave me a blank look. Then he said, “Ma’am?”
So, to further explain my question, I asked, “Married? Separated? Divorced?” I was just trying to let him know what “marital status” meant.
After thinking just a minute, the man replied, “I guess we’re separated. She’s dead.”
Well, yes, that would indeed be a separation. The man must have thought he had to choose one of the three options I had given him, and I failed to name every single possibility in the world.
Yep, sometimes getting the right answer means asking the right question.

11 comments:

Sandee said...

That's very true. You always have to ask the right answer. Then there are folks that have the bulb, but it's burned out. Just saying. :)

Have a terrific day. :)

Hillbilly Willy said...

Willy has that trouble with Juanita down at the Possum Grit Diner. Willy says "how you doing" and Juanita thinks Willy really cares and spends the next hour telling Willy her troubles.

Willy needs to learn to just say "Hi"

10-4 Willy

Chatty Crone said...

So true.

Linda said...

So funny and so true.

cheekfam said...

Although I only discovered your blog a few days ago, when I was asked to pass on the Kreativ blogger award, you were among the first to come to mind. Congratulations.

http://cheekfam.wordpress.com/2009/04/24/kreativ-blogger-award/

Sandee said...

Have a great day and weekend. :)

HumorSmith said...

Perhaps dying is a form of divorce in some places.

HumorSmith said...

Perhaps dying is a form of divorce in some places.
It's definitely not a trial separation.

Karen said...

I hope he wasn't on trial for murder.

Karen said...

And no, ya got it wrong, Humorsmith--staying married to a jerk is a form of dying.

storyteller said...

This reminds me ... I learned early on as a teacher that my students were often answering a different question than I posed and that listening carefully helped ME reshape the conversation purposefully. They taught me at least as much as I taught them ... seriously!
Hugs and blessings,

 
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