A Done Deal? Or Not?


It’s a done deal. Or not.

Yesterday morning, during our regular worship service, Karl - a/k/a Dupp or The Duppster - and I exchanged marriage vows, so now I’m Mrs. Karl J. Duppstadt. (I think I spelled that last name correctly!) 

So, it’s true. That part is a done deal. We tied the knot!

We made the commitments and said the vows; the rite of marriage or the sacrament of marriage took place Sunday. We didn’t have what is typically referred to as “a wedding.”

We decided to focus more on the marriage than on a wedding.

It’s the marriage – the rest of our lives – that isn’t a “done deal.”

And it’s the marriage that is the hard work.

The marriage, unlike the wedding, has no finite, predetermined ending time. A wedding is all happiness, excitement and joy; a marriage also contains happiness, excitement and joy, but it includes times of sorrow, difficulty and adversity as well.

Brides and grooms have long lists of friends and family to invite to a wedding. Rarely are others invited to a marriage. I used the word “rarely” because on Sunday, Pastor Troisi asked members of our congregation to commit, by God’s grace, to uphold and care for us in our life together. Thankfully, there was a resounding “We will” from the congregation.

We did invite God to our exchange of vows and we do invite God into our marriage, and we plan to keep Him as a part of our marriage.

Yes, we became husband and wife on Sunday. That part is a done deal.

The marriage work, though, is never a done deal.

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Anonymous said...

Congratulations!! May you have many years of happiness ahead of you!

Sarge Charlie said...

Congratulations, you are no longer and Ex-wife, i have a good feeling about the rest of your life.

Sandee said...

Congratulations to you both. What a happy occasion indeed. You are right though...now comes the labor of love.

Have a terrific day. :)

Rebecca Ramsey said...

Very true. You're a wise woman.
I'm happy for you both!

The Retired One said...

Best wishes to you both...may you have many happy years ahead together!

Syd said...

Sherry, many congratulations. I wish you both the best in the marriage. It does take work and a lot of patience.

Gianetta said...


Jennifer-Eighty MPH Mom said...

Congratulations!! Yes, marriage is work, but so worth it (usually LOL).

Enjoy married life!

Willy said...

Willy says congratulations and a big 10-4

Empress Bee (of the high sea) said...

oh best wishes honey! i always was told you don't congratulate the bride as it makes it seem she was lucky to get married! ha ha ha, old time southern ways i guess. anyway best wishes to you and congratulations to the groom!

smiles, bee

Personalized Sketches and Sentiments said...

AW! what wonderful, happy news :o) Here is to a long and blessed marriage.

Blessings & Aloha!

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