It's "If" Again - and There's a Reason

This is a repost. Someone left a comment in a foreign language. Unfortunately, I approved it without checking into it. As it turned out it was a link to an x-rated site. Because the comment was old, I couldn't simply delete the comment, or at least I didn't know how to do so. I deleted the entire post but am sharing it once again. What a lesson I've learned, though. Never, ever approve comments without knowing what they say, regardless of the language.



Just about everyone is familiar with Rudyard Kipling's "If." When I was in high school, we had to memorize that poem.
Gale Baker Stanton wrote the following that she called "If For Girls." I heard it years ago as a teenager and have just run across it again. It's worth sharing.





"If" For Girls (and Women)

If you can trust yourself though others doubt you
And conquer fears that limit what you dare
So you can freely give to those about you
The skills and talents that are yours to share;


If you can live, not for your pleasure only,
But gladly lend your gentleness and grace
To warm the hearts of those whose lives are lonely
And help to make their world a better place;


If you can balance dreams with practicality
And deal in facts, but never lose ideals,
If you can face the harshness of reality
And find the truths that prejudice conceals;


If you can be courageous when defeated
And humble in the face of victory,
Or give your best until a task's completed,
However difficult that task may be;


If you can temper facts with understanding
And seek to gently guide, not to control,
And neither be too lax nor too demanding,
But keep in mind the worth of every soul...


If you can strive, not caring who gets credit,
And work at building bridges, and not walls,
Or hearing idle slander, just forget it
And never fail to help someone who falls;


If you can give your help without begrudging
The patience, time and effort you impart,
Or look at others' weakness without judging
And see, not with your eyes, but with your heart;


If you can take resources that surround you
And use them in the way you feel you should,
You'll be a woman...and all those around you
Will be the richer for your womanhood!

Gale Baker Stanton