What in the world do you call a long-time dating companion when you’re, uh, older?
The Dawg and I have been seeing each other for over a year now, but we don’t know what to call each other to friends. Most terms are designed for young people, not for those of us over 50. (He just turned 78; I'll be 59 this month.)
“Boyfriend” and “girlfriend” sound awfully elementary, don’t you think? And it sounds almost ancient to say one is “going steady.” Whatever that means, if anything.
There are terms that sound right for folks who are living together, like companion, significant other, roommate, housemate, partner. But we’re not living together.
One person offered “lover” but that doesn’t sound like the way I’d like to introduce someone at a family reunion or at church.
Introducing The Dawg as “my friend” doesn’t give the proper significance to the relationship. That sounds almost too casual.
Someone suggested “special friend” – but, the truth is, I’ve got several people who are very special friends to me, not dates or anything like that, but just really good and very special friends.
Then there’s “close friend.” But that’s about the same as special friend.
Another option is “beau” but that sounds sorta like the 1890s or some time long ago. Weren’t those the guys who went courting?
I don’t want to introduce The Dawg as “my main squeeze.” After all, he’s my only squeeze.
On one or two occasions, I’ve called him “my honey.” That seemed to embarrass him.
Any ideas? If so, share 'em on this site.
Of course, if The Dawg reads all the stuff I write about him, I might not need to worry about how to introduce him. He might call me history.
PS -- He didn't call me history; in fact, we took THE big step. I can call him hubby now, but I think I'll stick with The Dawg.